Spice It Up: 5 Fun & Flirty Ways to Break Out of a Bedroom Rut

Let’s be honest—life happens. Between work, kids, stress, and the never-ending to-do list, intimacy can slip into autopilot. Doing A, responding with B, then ending up with C gets routine and boring. But don’t worry! A little creativity goes a long way in reigniting that spark. Here are five playful ways to spice it up and bring back the excitement.

1. Change the Scenery

If the bedroom feels too routine, take the fun elsewhere! Try the living room, the kitchen, the car, or even book a steamy staycation at a hotel. A fresh setting can make things feel brand new again. Don’t forget to try new positions. Not sure of what you can do? Grab a book, magazine or even rent a porn flick. And if you really want to set the mood, bring along the Burning Desire Massage Candle—it melts into a warm, skin-nourishing oil for a sensual massage that heats things up in more ways than one.

2. Awaken the Senses

Sensory play is an easy way to add excitement. By depriving your partner of their sight, it heightens their other senses. Try using a silky blindfold, then use touch to tickle or caress spots that arouse them. Introduce flavored body products, such as the Whipped Flavored Lubricant in a decadent new flavor—it’s hydrating, tastes delicious, and makes for a very tempting experience. Sensations Warming Lubricant can also be used for friction play as it warms with your breath or body parts rubbing against it.

Using our four-point restraint system, Bed, Bondage & Beyond, with or without a mask, lets your partner take control with your hands and feet spread out for erotic fun.

3. Play with Something New

Introducing a new product—like the sensual massage oil candle, a fun game, or a discreet toy—can bring out a whole new level of intimacy. The Hollow Strap-On With Harness is a way for partners to switch positions for teasing and exploring new sensations together. It’s the perfect way to turn up the heat!

4. Plan a “Sexy Surprise” Night

Take turns planning a surprise date night… with benefits. Maybe it’s a candlelit bubble bath, a slow-dance session, or a playful strip poker game. The key? Keep it light, fun, and unexpected.

5. Flirt Like You Just Met

Remember the butterflies from your early days? Bring them back with flirty texts, teasing whispers, or a love note left on their pillow. Meet in a bar or restaurant that you’ve been wanting to try, but pretend that one of you is getting picked up by the other. Building anticipation throughout the day makes the night even more exciting.

The best part? You don’t have to overhaul your relationship—just a little extra effort goes a long way. So pick one, try it out, and enjoy the sparks flying!

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Trish Stoecker

I retired from the Army in 2016 after 32 years of service, including two overseas deployments. After I got settled, I wanted to start my own business, and Pure Romance quite literally fell into my lap. I love what I do, and the first time a woman approached me and told me I "changed her life," I knew I made the right choice. Pure Romance is more than just toys: We are all about Educating, Empowering, and Entertaining women to enhance their relationships and help them feel better about themselves.

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